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KULEZERA MWA MAGANIZO NDI UZIMU

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MAGANIZO amathamangitsidwa kapena kukopeka kapena kusayanjanitsika ndi zinthu ndi zinthu zomwe amatembenukira. Izi ndi zoona nthawi zonse za moyo, kuyambira pazikumbukiro zoyamba za ubwana mpaka kutuluka kwa lawi la kandulo ya moyo. Kaŵirikaŵiri, ngati kuli konse, pamakhala nthaŵi imene munthu amatha kuona bwino lomwe ndi kuweruza popanda kutengeka, kupotoza kapena malingaliro, funso lililonse lomukhudza. Chigamulo chake pa mafunso ena chidzakhala chosiyana nthawi zotsatizana, ngakhale zinthu ndi mafunso amakhalabe ofanana. Iye amadabwa pamene mwana, ali ndi ziyembekezo ndi chidaliro monga wachichepere, muumuna ali ndi mathayo ake, ndipo mu ukalamba kukayikira, mphwayi, zosatsimikizirika ndi ziyembekezo.

Kusintha kwa thupi kumatulutsa masomphenya pa gawo lobadwa la thupi; zochita zimatsatira, ndipo malingaliro amasintha momwe amawonera kunja ndi mkati. Chisangalalo chimatsatira kukhumudwa, chisoni cha chisangalalo, ndipo mthunzi wa mantha umazimiririka pamene nyenyezi ya chiyembekezo iwuka. Momwemonso machitidwe a malingaliro mu nthawi iliyonse ya kusintha kwa thupi kumakhudzidwa ndi kukongola, ndi zomwe zimachitika kuchokera ku kukongola. Kukongola kumakopa, zithumwa, zododometsa, zoledzeretsa; machitidwe ake amabweretsa ululu; koma nthawi zonse chisokonezo.

Kuledzera kwamalingaliro ndi machitidwe zimatsatana m'moyo, komanso kuchokera kumoyo kupita kumoyo. Malingaliro sangathe kudziwa chisangalalo kapena kuchita ntchito yake yeniyeni ndi luntha mpaka atasiya kuledzera. Kutha kwa kuledzera kwake kungabweretsedwe ndi malingaliro pokhapokha atakana kukopeka kapena kudziphatika ku zinthu zakunja kwake. Imachita izi potembenuza malingaliro ake ndi chidwi chake ndikuphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito ndikuwongolera zochita zake mkati. Potero kuyesayesa kumapangidwa kuti abweretse zinthu zopanda pake koma zosasinthika za luso kapena mphamvu zomwe zimayendetsedwa, ndikuzipanga ndikuzigwirizanitsa. Mwa kutembenukira ku zochita za malingaliro mkati, munthu amaphunzira momwe malingaliro amagwirira ntchito popanda, ndipo amadziwa momwe angayendetsere machitidwe ake.

Kuledzera m'maganizo kumayambitsidwa ndi kuwira kwa nkhani yosatukuka yamalingaliro munjira zake zachitukuko. Mumuyeso munthu amawona zochita za malingaliro mkati ndikumvetsetsa zolinga zomwe zimafulumizitsa kuchitapo kanthu, kukongola kopandako kumathetsedwa. Ndiye pali kukongola kwa malingaliro mkati, pambuyo poti malingaliro ataya chidwi ndi dziko ndi zinthu za mdziko ndipo atengedwa ndi machitidwe ake okha ndi machitidwe ake.

Munthu, popereka chisamaliro ku ntchito za malingaliro mkati mwake, amawona kuti zinthu zakunja kwake ndi mawonekedwe akunja amkati ndi machitidwe a malingaliro. Zowonetsera zamalingaliro muzinthu zopanda chikoka choledzeretsa pamalingaliro mkati. Ngakhale sanamasulidwe kuledzera kwamalingaliro kuchokera kunja, amawona chifukwa chake ndipo amadziwa kukongola kukhala kukongola. Chidziwitso ichi chimayamba kuchotsa kukongola, kugonjetsa kuledzera. Amachita kuledzera m'maganizo mpaka kufika pamlingo womwe amapeza poyamba ndiyeno amawongolera machitidwe amkati amalingaliro ndi kuledzera kwake. Kenako amadziwa zenizeni zomwe zili mkati mwake. Kuledzera kwamalingaliro ndiko kulephera kudziwa zenizeni. Zowona zili mkati; zomwe zimawoneka kunja, zowona, ndi chiwonetsero chamkati.

Mphotho zomwe dziko limapereka ndi chikondi, chuma, kutchuka ndi mphamvu, ndipo anthu amalimbikira izi. Dziko limawapereka ngati mphotho. Mkati mwa maulendo, nkhondo, maulendo achipembedzo, mumzere wake wautali wa kubadwa, pali nthawi pamene munthu amawoneka kuti wapambana mphoto imodzi kapena zingapo; koma izi zikuwoneka choncho kwakanthawi. Zikakhala m'manja mwake, sangathe kuzigwira. Amachoka kapena kufota popanda kanthu ndipo amapita. Kaya adodometsedwa kapena kuthamangitsa, kapena kukhumudwa, kusweka kapena kugona, moyo umadzuka ndikumuyendetsa, ndikumupangitsa kulimbanabe. Zinthu zonse zomwe akufuna zikuphatikizidwa muzopereka zinayi izi. Kuti apeze mphoto imene diso la m’maganizo mwake limaikapo, amalimbikira ndi mphamvu zimene ali nazo kapena zimene angathe. Nthawi zina mphoto ziwiri zimamukopa mofanana, ndipo ngati sasiya imodzi chifukwa cha mzake, koma amayesetsa zonse ziwiri, ndiye kuti ali pankhondo pa iye yekha, ndipo khama lake nlofooka.

M’thupi lake lamakono la mwamuna ndi mkazi, mwamuna amafuna kusiya chikondi monga mmene chidakwa chimafunira kusiya kumwa. Munthu sangasiye chikondi pamene akupitiriza monga momwe alili.

Chikondi ndi kugonana ndizogwirizana kwambiri, zapamtima, kotero kuti mwamuna mwachibadwa amawona ndi kuganiza za chikondi kuchokera ku kugonana kwake. Ndizosatheka kukhala ndi thupi labwinobwino ndikuganiza za chikondi popanda lingaliro la mwamuna kapena mkazi. Pokhapokha atadzidziwa yekha kukhala wozindikira, osati mawonekedwe, mkati ndi wosiyana ndi thupi la kugonana momwe iye alili, sangakhale ndi chikondi popanda tincture wa kugonana. Ayenera kuphunzira ndi kudziwa chiyambi cha chikondi asanakonde moona mtima ndiponso popanda kudzivulaza yekha ndi amene amamukonda. Chidziŵitso—ndipo m’lingaliro loposa chidziŵitso wamba—chiyenera kutsogoza chikondi ndi kuchitsogolera mosalekeza ngati chikondi sichidzaledzera m’maganizo.

Lingaliro la chikondi limakhudzana ndi munthu yemwe amamukonda. Lingaliro la amayi, abambo, mlongo, mchimwene, bwenzi, mkazi, mwana kapena wachibale, ndi khalidwe ndi kugonana. Chikondi chimafika kupitirira zakuthupi kwa angelo, kwa Mulungu—ndipo lingaliro la mwamuna nlakuti iwo ali aamuna kapena aakazi—mfundo imene imazindikiridwa bwino lomwe, makamaka m’kulambira kosangalatsa.

Chikondi chiyenera kukhala chobadwa nacho chisanazindikirike; ziyenera kumveka zisanaganizidwe; ziyenera kulingaliridwa tisanadziwike. Chikondi chimachokera m'maganizo; kumamveka m’thupi la munthu aliyense m’miyezo yosiyanasiyana, kuyambira paukhanda mpaka ku ukalamba; zimaganiziridwa ndi maganizo pamene maganizo amakhwima ndi kuyesetsa kudzidziwa okha; chinsinsi chake chimadziwika pa kukhwima kwathunthu kwa malingaliro. Chimene chimalimbikitsa ndi mkati mwa chikondi sichimayandikiridwa mpaka munthu atafuna kuzindikira zaumulungu. Chomwe chimayima mkati mwa chikondi ndi ubale. Chikondi ndicho kuphunzitsa munthu ubale wake ndi zinthu zonse. Pamene ali mu kuledzera kwa chikondi munthu sangathe kuganiza kapena kudziwa ubale wake weniweni ndi matupi ndi zinthu zomwe amakonda. Chifukwa chake chikondi chimamupangitsa kugonana ndi kuzindikira mpaka atakonzeka komanso wokonzeka kuganiza ndi kudziwa. Munthu akaganiza mpaka atadziwa ubale wake ndi zomwe amakonda, chikondi chimasiya kukhala choledzera chamalingaliro, chimakwaniritsa cholinga chake. Imawulula ndikugwirizanitsa mbali za malingaliro ku zonse. Imawonetsa ubale wosasunthika wa malingaliro aliwonse kwa onse ndi malingaliro onse kwa wina ndi mnzake.

Chikondi sichingasiye chinsinsi chake kwa iwo amene amakondwera ndi mivi yake yoyaka moto, kapena kwa iwo akumva kubuula chifukwa cha kuvulala kwake, kapena kwa iwo amene amasanthula mawu opanda pake. Chikondi chimapereka chinsinsi chake kwa iwo okha omwe amachotsa kukongola kwake. Kuti achite izi ayenera kufufuza ndi kudziwa, mkati, zinthu za chikondi zomwe ziri kunja. Mwamuna, mkazi, mwana kapena munthu wina, ndi zinthu zokondedwa popanda. Ndi chiyani chomwe chimakondedwa? Ngati ali khalidwe, malingaliro, moyo, mwa munthu amene amamukonda, ndiye imfa ya munthuyo, kapena lingaliro la imfa kapena kulekanitsidwa, sizidzabweretsa kutayika konse, chifukwa khalidwe kapena malingaliro kapena moyo sizingawonongeke. ; limakhala m’malingaliro, ndipo limakhala ndi iye amene amalilingalira. Pamene munthu akonda munthu, kaŵirikaŵiri si khalidwe kapena malingaliro kapena moyo umene umakondedwa; ndiye munthuyo. Kuyang'ana mawonekedwe popanda maphunziro wina ku kukongola kwake. Ndikuyang'ana mawonekedwe akunja, zomwe zili mkati mwake sizingawonekere. Mmodzi amachotsa kukongola kwakunja poyang'ana mkati ndikufunsa zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi mawonekedwe amunthu popanda. Pamene malingaliro opangidwa ndi thupi, kuwala kozindikira mkati mwa thupi, kumapitirizabe kufufuza kwake, kumapeza kuti chikondi sichiri cha munthu wopanda, koma chinachake chamkati, chomwe chimadzutsidwa ndikuwonetseredwa ndi munthuyo. Monga momwe munthu amafunira magalasi osati chifukwa cha kalirole koma chifukwa akhoza kukondwera pamene akuyang'ana mkati mwake, choncho amafuna pafupi ndi iye omwe akuwaganizira kuti amawakonda, chifukwa cha malingaliro kapena zowawa mwa iye zomwe zimadzutsa kapena kusinkhasinkha. Pamene wina ayang'ana mosasunthika mu kuwala kwake mkati mwake, amapezamo zomwe ziri kapena zomwe zimawonekera mu mawonekedwe popanda. Akapeza izi amachiritsidwa chikondi chake kuledzera kwa mawonekedwe popanda. Kukongola kwake kwatha.

Iye tsopano amakonda izo mkati, popanda kufunikira kwa kuwunikira kwake kuchokera kunja. Mitundu yomwe imayambitsa zokondana, ziyenera kuchitidwa mosadukiza m'kuunika mkati mpaka ziwonekere. Chilichonse chikuwoneka kudzera mu izi chidzazimiririka, ndipo chidzawonetsa chiwalo ndi chigawo cha mitsempha chomwe chikugwirizana nacho, ndi lingaliro lomwe lidayitana nkhani yake kukhala mawonekedwe.

Mafomuwa amatha pamene malingaliro omwe amalumikizana nawo azindikiridwa. Lingaliro la chikondi likazindikirika popanda mitundu yamkati ya chikondi, ndiye kuti chikondicho chiyenera kuyitanidwa mu kuwala kozindikira mkati. Kenako mphamvu yamalingaliro imayang'ana nkhaniyo mowunikira mkati, ndipo zidzadziwika kuti chomwe chili chikondi ndizomwe munthu ali nazo komanso kudzikonda kwake. Munthu mwini yekha ndiye chikondi. Pamene chikondi ichi chadziwika, maganizo a chikondi ayenera kuyitanidwanso mkati mwa kuunika; ndiye chifuniro chiyenera kukhala kupeza chizindikiritso cha iwe mwini mu lingaliro lirilonse; ndipo pamenepo zizindikirika kuti umunthu mwa aliyense uli chimodzimodzi monga mwa iye mwini; kuti m’cikondi muli cibale ca cimodzi mwa munthu yense.

Munthu amene amadziŵa motero chinsinsi cha unansi wa chikondi ali ndi mphamvu zopanda malire za chikondi. Zoledzera zachikondi zilibe mphamvu. Chikondi chake chili mwa iye mwini mwa zolengedwa zonse.

Yemwe amadziwa ubale ndi amene chikondi chake chiri mwa iye mwini mwa zolengedwa zonse, amalamulira chuma ndi kutchuka ndi kuledzera kwa mphamvu popanda vuto lalikulu. Njira yogonjetsera kuledzera kwachikondi iyeneranso kugwiritsidwa ntchito pogonjetsa kuledzera kwamalingaliro ndi kwauzimu.

Kuledzera kwachuma kumayamba ndi lingaliro la chuma. Kufuna kukhala nako, kumapangitsa malingaliro kuganiza zopeza ndi kukhala nazo. Kuganiza kumakulitsa lingaliro lopeza ndi kukhala. Malingaliro opeza ndi kuyitanira kuchitapo kanthu mphamvu mu nkhani yosatukuka ya malingaliro omwe amalimbikira zinthu zomwe amaziona ngati chuma. Kulimbana uku ndi nkhani yosatukuka yamalingaliro, ndi mphamvu zomwe zimagwirizana ndi chuma, zimasunga malingaliro mumkhalidwe wachuma kuledzera. Kuledzera kwachuma kumapitirira mpaka nkhaniyo itakula ndi kulamulidwa.

Lingaliro lachisungiko, lingaliro la kukhala wofunika, mtengo umene anthu amaika pa chuma, mbiri imene ena amapereka, kulingalira kwawo kwa iye monga “munthu wake wofunika kwambiri,” chikhulupiriro chake cha kufunika kwake, ndi mitundu imene chuma chake chikuledzera. amatenga.

Munthu amene angagonjetse kuledzera kwa chuma angayambe mwa kudzifunsa kuti, ndi chiyani mwa zinthu zake zonse chimene angatenge nacho pambuyo pa imfa. Chokhacho ndi chake chimene angapite nacho. Pamene njira yogonjetsa kuledzera kwa chikondi ikugwiritsidwa ntchito pa kuledzera kwa chuma, munthu amawona kupanda kwake ndikutaya lingaliro la kufunika kwake. Kufunika kwake kumachepa pamene katundu wake amazimiririka akaunika ndi kuunika kwamalingaliro. Pamene chuma chizimiririka ndi kuzimiririka ndi kuunika kwa maganizo, zimakhala ngati zothodwetsa zachotsedwa, ndipo pamabwera kumverera kwaufulu. Pamene chiŵerengero chimene dziko lapansi chimaika pa kufunika kwake chikuchepetsedwa ndi kuunika kwa malingaliro ake, kuŵerengera kwake kwenikweni kumawonekera. Chuma chimapereka malo ku kuyenera, komwe kuli mulingo wa kudziyesa yekha ndi zinthu. Kuyenera ndi chimene akuchigwirira ntchito.

Kuledzera kutchuka ndiko kufuna kuchita zinazake zomwe zingapangitse munthu kukhala ndi malingaliro a anthu. Kuti achite izi msilikali amamenyana, osema ziboliboli, wojambula zithunzi, wolemba ndakatulo akuimba, wopereka chithandizo amawononga ndalama; onse amayesa kuchita chinachake chimene iwo adzakhala nacho, chimene chidzawonjezera chikhumbo. Nthawi zonse amatsogozedwa ndi lingaliro ili, lomwe amalipanga kudziko lapansi.

Kuledzera kwa mbiri kumagonjetsedwera ndi kufunafuna zomwe zimapanga lingaliro la kutchuka. Zidzapezeka kuti kutchuka ndi mthunzi wamaganizo, wowonetsedwa ndi malingaliro kuchokera ku lingaliro la kusafa kwake. Kuledzera kwamaganizo kwa kutchuka kwagona pakufuna mthunzi uwu, dzina osati iye mwini. Kuledzera kutchuka kumatha akapeza ndikutsata zomwe zili mwa iye zomwe sizifa. Kenako sadaledzera, koma amawunikira kuwala komwe kumawunikira ndikuchotsa malingaliro ake olakwika. Amasiya kuganiza za kutchuka, kugwirira ntchito kutchuka. Amaganiza ndi kugwirira ntchito moyo wosakhoza kufa, mkhalidwe wakukhala wozindikira mosalekeza mumpangidwe uliwonse kapena mkhalidwe umene angakhale.

Kuledzera kwauzimu ndiko kugwira ntchito kwa mphamvu za malingaliro kuti akhale ndi zomwe akuganiza kuti ndi mphamvu. Kuledzera kwake kumapitilizidwa ndi ganizo lalokha patsogolo pa china chilichonse, ndi kufuna kuti likhale ndi ulemu ndi kupembedza kuchokera kwa zolengedwa zina. Kuledzera kwamphamvu kumachititsa khungu maganizo ku ufulu wa ena, ndipo kumawonjezera ukulu wake. Imagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake kukakamiza kupembedza ndi kupembedza. Kuledzera kwake kumachulukitsidwa ndi kutamandidwa, kuyamika, kulemekeza, ndi ena, ndi lingaliro la ukulu wake. Kuledzera kwamphamvu kumapangitsa munthu kukhala chiwopsezo kwa iyemwini komanso kudziko lapansi.

Kuledzera kwamphamvu kumagonjetsedwa ndikugwira mphamvu mu kuwala kwa malingaliro ndikuwona mkati mwake. M'kupita kwa nthawi chidziwitso chidzapezeka mwa mphamvu. Mphamvu ndi mawonekedwe omwe chidziwitso chimagwira ntchito ndipo ndikuwonetsa chidziwitso. Chidziwitso chikapezeka mwiniwake amadziwika. Chikondi ndiye chimasonyeza njira ndi chidziwitso chimazindikiritsa chikondi mwa iye mwini ndikuchidziwa mwa ena onse. Ndiye kuledzera kwa mphamvu kuli kumapeto. Chidziŵitso ndi mphamvu, imene imagwiritsidwa ntchito kuonjezera chidziŵitso mwa ena, osati kufuna kutamandidwa kapena kulambiridwa. Munthu amadziwidwa ndi ena, osati mosiyana nawo. Kudziwa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito kwa onse.